Pivot to F_ck it
Eleanor Anstruther and the art of aging.
Typically, I release my podcast interviews as a whole. This week, and for the next few weeks I plan to release clip “ah-ha” moments from my interview with
, creator of the Literary Obsessive blog and numerous books (and a Stone Circle). She’s brilliant and funny and irreverent! Why not? She’s earned it over a lifetime.Today’s vid clip from Eleanor is about our female role as dictated by a patriarchal society and her pivot out of it in midlife. Who we are, as women, and what we do during our lifetime until menopause is what is expected of us. What happens after menopause is our business, our problem. It’s liberating!
To pivot away from our traditional roles: wife, lover, mother, daughter, is to say “fuck it” as Eleanor says here. It is not said out of anger, but necessity while reconfiguring ourselves. We cannot be who we were for the past forty plus years. We don’t behave the same way physically, so why should we expect to behave in general, the same way?
We need to evolve. That is what a pivot is meant to achieve.
I will be releasing more clips on Notes and Instagram over the next two weeks culminating in the full interview with Eleanor. A new experiment!
What are your thoughts on a pivot of attitude in midlife? Have you done that? Or, no? I’m curious!
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Last night my show opened up at WREN in Bethlehem, NH. They recently renovated their gallery and I am honored to be in my 8th show with WREN. The work isn’t online but here is my instagram (@kimdstockwellstudio) where I have posted both my work and the woman I am showing with, Kristine Lingle. Our pallets are wonderfully in sinc. Stop by the gallery and the Adaire Inn, Bethlehem, NH where there is also a bunch of our work!
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I Would love to talk to someone who….
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AND….
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xo
K
I’ll start. What do I think about pivots in midlife? I think they are really really necessary. We’re are not who we were, before our physical shift in menopause. How do we stay relevant in our own eyes and others? We must figure it out for ourselves, what interests us, how to be involved.
Love Eleanor's clip! Pivots? I'm trying, leaning a little harder into my writing. I certainly have the cliché fewer-fucks-to-give and care much less what people may think of my efforts. But I'm also, honestly, exhausted - by the world, my body, all those years of parenting. Hoping to find the energy for a real pivot, which sounds delicious.